A Letter to my Fellow Sojouners: Breaking Ground as an Empathic Therapist/Healer. February 20, 2020 One of the joys of being an entrepreneur is being able to create my own content and offerings. As a therapist in a field that gives little support to those that help others, I have always wanted to create programs that facilitated healing for the people on the front lines in the mental health and helping professions. The irony of such a desire, is that many energetically sensitive healers, are resistant to getting their own help due to becoming slowly overtime, desensitized by the medical model that purports to be empirically tested and most effective. Granted, big pharma has banked on these statistics but the human need of autonomy may be dismissed. Ironically enough, there is also a shadow side to the healing profession that does not talk about the shame of seeking help as a therapist. The people you may be going to for help could see you as competition on one hand and on the other, may know someone who could potentially hire and refer you. Some of the thoughts a healer might experience might be, “what if they judge me for my dirty laundry?!” “What if they too discredit or minimize my abilities like everyone else has?” I have always been a strong supporter of the belief that it is important to do your own inner work so that you can be a more effective therapist and coach. Yet, after years of firing all of my therapists at some point or another, I had to dig deep to decide what was the truth of the matter. One reason, was that these well meaning therapists did not know what an empath was and had neglected to address this as a primary focus for healing. I was also not given tools for coping with large amounts of energy and emotion (energy in motion) coming at me from others. Most of the time, it was the symptoms that got all the spotlight at the expense of the “experiencer”. Traditional individual psychology is based on individualism from a predominantly male North Eastern European background with heavy hitting players such as Freud, Fritz Pearls, and C.G, Jung that tells the “experiencer” that they are projecting rejected parts of themselves due to a lack of individuation. With much respect to the forefathers of my beloved profession, I call a bold order for reformation to update the data. These types of theories are great for people who struggle with lack of responsibility, struggle with denial as a coping mechanism, and have a poor to low sense of self. People struggling with addiction and those with chronic depression, those stuck in learned hopelessness tend to benefit greatly from this work. However, for the empath, addictive behaviors are reported to stem from learned helplessness from lack of mirroring the energetically sensitive’s abilities and sensibilities. The contrary approach of projection only further traumatizes the empath who needs to be seen, acknowledged, and heard with affirming and non-judgmental eyes for once in their life. An empath’s ability to empathize other people’s struggle, demonstrates the existence of self and Higher Self within the empath. To the uninformed empath, knowing who’s pain they are feeling is paramount. What individualistic psychology does not account for is that the empath feels others people’s feelings inside their very own body which makes the multiplicity tough to address with single focused interventions. As an avid attendee in the spirituality community, I started to develop some considerable disdain for a common statement that implied the nature of Unity in Consciousness. What I heard over and over again by what appeared to be well-meaning people as they deflected a compliment from another stating, “I am but a mere reflection of you!”. To be fair, I suspect that this false sense of humility is paved with “good” intent, all in the name of “Oneness.” A true paradoxical conundrum at best when trying to raise the frequency by sharing care, light, love, and acknowledgment that every soul needs to evolve. One of my favorite speakers and Love Revolution leaders, Matt Kahn shares that this mentality is like “spiritual narcissism” which I tend to agree with him on. Yet, if that is the case, then most people’s feelings get spiritually bi-passed and shut down when offering the love that the spirituality movement purports is about. Most of the time when I was seeking emotional and energetic support in my history, I was told, you are smart enough, capable enough, strong enough, and wise enough. Yet, what was troubling me was never addressed. Granted, I too did not know what an empath was, with no understanding of this to share this crucial bit of information with my provider. Please know that I wanted to share what I was experiencing as an energetically sensitive person but felt I would be directed to someone who would dismiss my experience as delusional or minimize my feelings of overwhelm of other people’s energy as projections. This only furthered my healing journey and searched for a spec of common reflection. It was not until I started to take more time away from both of these communities did I start to feel the reprieve I was seeking. This, in fact, is how I came to develop the empath programs that I am now facilitating. What most people in and out of the field do not know is that empaths are the greatest mirrors on the planet. Yup, you heard me right! I claimed my seat! We have an intrinsic internal mechanism (extra mirroring neurons) that has the ability to shine back on others their reflection of self. We are shiny and full of light so that people can see themselves more clearly. Hence, why true narcissists and people with personality disorders whose self is either non-existent or broken flock to us. As I continue facilitating groups for empaths and work individually with fellow sojourners, I continuously see the power of proper reflection and the gifts of positive unconditional regard. Those that do not have this trait, have little to no ability to do so because they will always benefit from an empaths light. What an empath needs is respite from being a helper with no return. Sacred reciprocity is one of my favorite terms that illuminates the phenomenon of getting empaths together in one place. No one person leaves empty or drained. We all drink from the well and leave full. This is the magic that I am hoping to offer to the healing communities at large. My hope is that my format and tools offered will be one of many formats in the future that continues to allow being a healer as a sustainable professional and avocational choice. I plan on doing this work for a very long time and wish the same for you if you so choose. Blessings and prosperity to you all. I will be starting a two new support groups for empaths and HSPs helping professionals called Integrated Spirituality and Psychology Peer Support group hopefully starting the week of 3/10/2020. Please sign up for your seat now for the groups are forming now. One will be online and the other face to face at my private practice in Decatur, Ga. I look forward to seeing you there. https://staceycohenlpc.com/professional-and-personal-development-for-the-helping-practitioner/ Sincerely, Stacey Cohen, MA, LPC The Center for Soulful Presence is moving locations January 1st, 2020! December 9, 2019 You read it right, The Center for Soulful Presence will be moving to a brand new spot nestled in the business district of the Oakhurst neighborhood. The new locale is just behind the Agnes Scott College near a local coffeehouse, a pizza place, and some wonderful restaurants located in the old Children’s Scottish Rite Hospital. The building has been renovated and converted into a charming office building suite complex to a variety of businesses. If you are a client of mine and need further directions, please contact me via email or phone. The new address is 321 W. Hill Street, Suite 5, Decatur, GA 30030. It is going to feel good to be back in the Decatur area again. I look forward to seeing you soon at the new office! I think you are going to like the new place. ~Best, Stacey New Sound Healing Events for Empaths at The Center for Soulful Presence! October 15, 2019 The Center for Soulful Presence is now offering regular sound healing experiences on a bi-monthly basis geared for the highly sensitive person or empath seeking respite from an overstimulated internal and external world. Making time to bring one’s nervous system to equilibrium is one of the key “thrival” skills empaths and HSPs need in order to sustain emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Taking time for self-care is the difference we make to be the change that we wish to see in the world. When: November 8th 2019 7:30 pm-9 pm. What: The Center’ for Soulful Presence is featuring Rondae The Soundhealer, who will be sharing a transformation inducing soundscape journey for your relaxation pleasure. You will not want to miss an opportunity to experience Rondae’s throat singing, toning, singing bowl, shruti box, and didgeridoo playing. Cost: $35 at the door or $30 [paypal.me/RSkillings or cash app $RondaeSkillings] Please wear comfy clothes to sit on the floor or relax in a chair. Mats and pillows are available but you are encouraged to bring your own. Where: 3125 Presidential Parkway, Suite 220, Atlanta, GA 30340.Please put into GPS “City of Light” so that it takes you to the right office building. Go to the front entrance and take the elevator to the 2nd floor and make a left out of the elevator. Keep walking and it will dead end into my room just past the seating area. About the artist: Meet Rondae. He loves to solve complex problems, such as ending the suffering of humankind. After spending time in the Army and then becoming a Registered Nurse in order to work on this problem, he realized something more effective needed to be done, so he took months off of busy work schedules to explore the effects of meditation and to become a Reiki Master. He opened up to valuable insights about the fundamental nature of existence as he uncovered rapidly evolving musical gifts that became his vehicle to bring peace, clarity and self healing into the vibratory field, which results in total relaxation of the nervous system and release from misaligned information. During his ongoing studies of health, existence, sound and vibration, he’s found that illness itself is misaligned information carried in the energetic field. He realigns the disharmonious information [sickness] by exposing it to powerfully intentional waves of harmony coming from his heart, played through his assortment of intuitively chosen instruments. Our natural state is one of harmony and the ability to self-heal. The sounds that he channels using his voice, didgeridoos or drums causes a cellular remembrance of our natural state, which causes an alignment of mind, body and Spirit. Rondae also offers scheduled individual or group sessions utilizing Reiki and sound healing experiences. Please contact Rondae via email at email@example.com Or text [470.485.4505] He can also be reached on FB messenger or Instagram. Feel free to visit the links below to follow his epic journey of love, life, sound and health. https://www.facebook.com/rondae.skillings https://instagram.com/rondae_the_soundhealer?fbclid=IwAR080t3Vc8oBSOGxOBmmQrvKsiM2yP5ejFfRkzuT0gNJizhoUPoT6SM4tt8 https://youtube.com/Rondae%20The%20Soundhealer?fbclid=IwAR0o5-jQep-arfilozsIgKsf5mSTFNkIAIEbSEHpBD7Fr3gqPGOY2uihZO0 Empath & HSP Sound Healing Series Featuring Rondae Skillz Friday, October 25th, 2019. Time: 7:30 PM- 9:00 PM Where: The Center for Soulful Presence at the City of Light. 3125 Presidential Parkway, Suite #220, Atlanta, GA 30310. The Center for Soulful Presence is now offering regular sound healing experiences on a bi-monthly basis geared for the highly sensitive person or empath seeking respite from an overstimulated internal and external world. Making time to bring one’s nervous system to equilibrium is one of the key “thrival” skills empaths and HSPs need in order to sustain emotional, physical, and spiritual health. Taking time for self-care is the difference we make to be the change that we wish to see in the world. The Center’ for Soulful Presence is featuring Rondae The Soundhealer, who will be sharing a transformation inducing soundscape journey for your relaxation pleasure. You will not want to miss an opportunity to experience Rondae’s throat singing, toning, singing bowl, shruti box, and didgeridoo playing. Details in the link for Special Events on Main page of this website.